Read this if you are 25 and don't have any idea what you are doing!

Read this if you are 25 and don’t have any idea what you are doing

When I was in high school, I used to draw inspiration from the 21-year-olds of that time, most of them who are from my neighborhood had just wrapped up their tertiary studies, finding employment in prominent companies…I was also convinced that by the age of 25 I would have everything in my life figured out, that perhaps I would be in a stable relationship/married

, owning a house

or car, 

but as it turns out, those kind of fantasies don’t always form part of one’s reality. I am graduating from University for the second time in April and time seems to have flown with a rocket. It makes me wonder if my high school self is looking at me in horror or delight, truth be told, I am 24-years old(25 in 6 months) and I don’t know what the heck I’m doing.

After five years of learning how to live by myself and being kind of independent, I’ve moved back into my mother’s house. While I do love my family and appreciate their unconditional love (or tolerance), I long to live far away from home again. After five years of making new friends and learning things about the world around me, I have gone back to the people I started life with.  I once said it in one of my old posts that once you leave home for a long time upon your return you will realise your entire family has developed a psychological disposition that doesn’t include you and all of a sudden you are just watching them do stuff without you.

I feel like I am 18 years again, the time I went to varsity for the first time with no life responsibilities apart from attaining my degree, except this time I don’t have the luxury of being 18. Life isn’t holding my hand or offering me anything for free anymore. Many of my peers have achieved what I thought I would have achieved by now and it feels like others have attained it all when I haven’t even began at. My big sister keeps assuring me that it’s going to be okay at some point and that this momentary ‘dry’ season shouldn’t drive me to despair about my future and as a young woman trusting in Jesus I’m drawing strength from him daily believing he will take care of me.

So what if you are not married yet, so what if you don’t have your dream job yet, so what if you don’t own any property yet like the next person? This life thing is not a competition (although Instagram makes it seem like it is), you are not in a race to beat anyone. This is your own journey.  

I may be 24 and have no idea what I’m doing and life has not played out as I had thought! So if you are in the same boat but not seeing the shore …..maybe there is something far more fundamental to life than marriage, great corporate job and wealth. That fundamental calling begs the question, why are we here? The answer to that question would surely cause us to see that all of life does not consist of marriage, great job and wealth and even without these, there is refreshing joy. Surely if all of life found its fulfilment and satisfaction in marriage, great corporate job and wealth, then life is sure empty and trivial and sad.

 

 

 

Top 10 Best Actresses on South African TV

South African film industry is infested with bad actors and actresses (i.e Ranthumeng from Muvhango...Karishma from Generations the legacy, gosh they are terrible!), it feels like casting directors love torturing their viewers with bad acting, which makes you wanna gouge your eyeballs out or rather appreciate those who deposit their energy and talents into their given roles.

In 2011, SowetanLIVE ran an article Top 10 SA Actresses revealing the best actresses who grace our local Television screens, the list was rather disappointing as Sowetan overlooked some of the most remarkable actresses in Mzanzi. Below is a redeeming list with best actresses curated for you to scrutinize:

Top 10 Best Actresses on South African TV

10. Sonia Mbele (Ntombi Khumalo-Dlomo on Generations)

You will remember this beauty as the wife of controversial businessman/gangsta, Sibusiso Dlomo on Generations. Although she hasn't done much acting recently except on golddiggers, her work in the soapie still speaks volume about what a talented actress she is.

9. Sindi Dlathu (Nomthandazo Mokoena on Muvhango)

She had a small part in the critically acclaimed Apartheid film Sarafina then emerged as an actor on one of South Africa's most watched tv shows, Muvhango. Although her character is currently  rumoured to be attending an all-white party which is expected to end sometime in December 2017, there is no denying that her and some few characters( not Ranthumeng or Mankosi) are God's gift to Duma Ndlovu's mystical show.

8. Michelle Botes (Cheryl De Villiers on Isidingo: The need)

If you watch Isidingo religiously, you will remember an episode back in 2003 where Michelle's character murdered her stepson in cold-blood, hid his body in a mineshaft and went on to marry his father- Barker Haines (played by Robert Whitehead) She nailed her role as an evil deranged woman because this particular episode made her one of the most hated TV characters.

7. Lydia Mokgokoloshi (Koko Mantsha on Skeem Saam)

Almost two decades after she starred in the Sepedi tv drama Bophelo ke Semphekgo as Mma-Nkosheng, Lydia returned to our tv screens as Koko Mantsha, the overprotective grandmother of Katlego Pietersen. Just like wine, this oldie's acting has just gotten finer with time.

6. Dawn Thandeka King (Lindiwe Xulu on Uzalo)

Just one stare at her and you can already presume what kind of character she portrays on Uzalo. She is the bad-ass, fearless Alpha-woman and wife of villain-gangster Muzi Xulu AKA Gxabhashe. This lady nails her role well enough together with notorious husband that makes Generations the legacy gangsta couple Kumkani and Tshidi Phakade's acting look insignificant.

5.Joyce Skefu (Maletsatsi Khumalo on Scandal)

She is currently known for her as Malematsi from eTV Scandal but before that, she was Catherine's outspoken sister(Doris) on Muvhango. Every fan of the soapie would remember and love her character's signature line "you must never..!". This lady is one of the all-time outstanding local actresses that's why she is on this list and also SowetanLive's list.

4. Manaka Ranaka (Lucy Diale on Generations the legacy)

 Manaka acted as the soft, sweet wife of Mojo on Stokvel years ago and now she portrays the gangsta mother of Namhla Diale. Her character is the most entertaining on Generations the legacy. The fact that she isn't a one-dimensional actress exhibits what a talented actress she is.

3. Maumela Mahuwa (Vho-Susan Mukwevho on Muvhango)

What did you think I was gonna do.....Leave Vendas out of this?. Okay I didn't include her just because she is Venda but because she is a talented actress. One thing I like about Maumela's acting is that its natural. She doesn't try too hard as an artist. If you are watching a show and can no longer tell whether a character is acting or being their natural self it can only mean they are really good at what they do.  I salute you "Sosana"(Masindi's voice)

 

2.Shoki Sebotsane (Celia Kunutu on Skeem Saam)

Her role in Muvhango years ago nearly assassinated her acting talent, you can spot this by the amazing work she does on Skeem Saam. MaKunutu is my fave! She can evoke the viewers emotions just by uttering one line. Lets toast to this woman's brilliant acting please ( /click click!/ )

Honorable mentions:Candy Moloi (Vho-Makhadzi on Muvhango), Connie Fergusson( Karabo Moroka-Mogale-Radebe on Generations the legacy), Murabeli Rasalanavho (Mukondeleli on Muvhango), Diaan Lawrenson (Paula Van der Lecq-de Bruyn on 7de Laan)


1. Brenda Bongiwe Ngxoli (Vuyo on Home Affairs)

Her brilliance at her craft shines through in every role she portrays (esp Tsha Tsha and Home Affairs). Brenda is such an extraordinary  performing artist , she even murdered it as an MC on Our Perfect wedding. HATS OFF to you Brenda (And the Drama school you attended). South African Television can use more actresses of your caliber.







So if you've read the list and you agree or disagree make that visible in the comment section! or perhaps suggest other best actresses I might have missed.
Thanks for reading lovies :-) Ndo livhuwa